An education of sorts

A chap observed

I was enrolled by my Father from birth to attend the Lycée Français in South Kensington, where he had been a pupil in the years after WW1.

In my school report 1952-53, I was placed 22nd in my class.

In most subjects I was Assez Bien, which means: So-so.

Handwriting: Too Irregular.

Drawing: 5½ out of 6.

Behaviour: “Passable” with an exclamation mark.

Certificate of distinction: No.

REPORT by year tutor L. F. Seriex:

  • “Peter gets distracted by too many things to work well”
  • “Could do much better”

I recognise myself here. I saw few differences between the classroom and the playground. There were roughly 2,000 students at the French Lycée. The recreation ground was always crowded.

I retain a clear memory of my first day. The gigantic classroom barely contained the deafening shrill of many frightened 6-year-old children.

The noise of their voices amplified by the hard walls was unlike any noise I had heard before. A few tears, then we were left to the teacher. I soon forgot the unfamiliarity. I was at the “Lycée” from 1952 to ’54.

I became more fluent in French at the Lycée. My Father, born in Paris, spoke French with me at home. My gift of bilingualism has been one of my most productive attributes throughout my life. I used to speak Dutch at home with my Mother. I progressed to German GCE ‘O’ Level. During my TEFL years, I got familiar with Italian and Spanish. These helped me when I met and married my Brazilian wife.

Cromwell Road, South Ken

1952 was before the dawn of the Age of Gratuitous Danger, and front doors of homes or of churches were seldom locked. I was very little, so when I finished school most of the afternoon I was free to cross the Cromwell Road and explore the Natural History Museum on my own with never a thought of kidnap.

Though they are fragmentary memories, like shards of crystal dreams, I can easily bring myself back to my small circle of vision alone in the great halls standing in the immediate presence of a staggering variety of crystals and fossils on display under glass. Those natural wonders still burn bright for me right this minute!

All classes were taught in French by French speaking staff, including half an hour of English per week.

My father removed me in 1954 when I started to spell most words in English with a terminal ‘e’.

I went to a Chelsea boys only prep school where physical discipline was violent, random, painful and mostly unjustified. My enjoyable time was spent with my school friends.

My Father planned I sit for the “Challenge”. I comprehensively flunked this entrance test to Westminster School. Even at 13, it reeked to me of a bullying ecosystem, an undeserved entitlement to privilege and of pointless ingrained traditions. So my Dad and I went on a Home Counties road trip to find a school in a hurry. Because I was well-spoken, and crammed in Latin and Greek, the school which accepted me placed me in a year above my age group.

Unlike the inner London male-only prep school with its strict uniform, its beatings with a cane by the headmaster and classrooms full the teachers’ cigarette smoke, I found myself catapulted into a new and distracting coeducational community. Five years at a boarding school based on liberal principles of education and set in lush green countryside.

I had been so distracted by the time the first year ended, I was told I’d have to repeat it. This made me happy, because it meant the lovely Christine and I would share the same class.

In 1964, I returned to Swinging Sixties London to retake my three ‘A’ Levels at the French Lycée in South Ken. My Dad chose l be crammed for the Oxford University general entrance exam. Glandular fever halted all academic progress.

In 1967, I was cut off by depression from peer group friends and family until my return to the brighter world of nine-to-five, marriage, mortgage and children from 1977.

Life began for me in 2013 with the radical transformation “EveryNow”.

In love

Signature poem from the Year of my Life 2013

In love

꧁  E❤️v🧡e💛r💚yN💙o💜w  ꧂

All my life I have rejected the offered set route. I have built on my lived experience. My lived experience continues to be my guide and my growing bedrock. This is because I am a person who has always conversed intensely with his interior self.

Some time after my epiphany of 2013, when I saw my own heart after my first Biodanza experiences blasted it open, I completely abandoned outcomes and I focused purely on the journey.

I had been in this state for many years previously, because I had isolated my true self behind defences. What hit me during my first intense Biodanza connections was the loss of my identity into the presence of another’s identity.

After these shock waves, I could only focus purely on the journey, because I had utterly lost all connection to previously acquired inner certainties I had assumed I could rely on as fixed and determined. I did not have any handholds or footholds to use as my guides.

The past had vanished in a flash. I could not use my past to understand what had happened to me, or where I was going, or even what manner of identity I could call my own. I knew only that this was obviously blissful and harmless.

What next? From 2013 onwards, all I had left was the journey. I asked questions of my friends in the Biodanza tribe. I researched through the Internet to try and understand what had happened to me. I shared where I was now with others who might help me understand this untrodden path.

Much later on, maybe four or five years later, I came to the understanding that there is nothing to arrive at, nothing to understand. This is my “Everything Is”, when the vastness of Acceptance beyond intellectual searching makes an ever widening landing stage to tread on. And so my journey never ends.

My days became filled not by my actions or by my intentions, but by an ever growing sense of validation in the moment. I had an overwhelming sense that I was living in a completely new space. Nothing was familiar.

Nothing I could choose to do had meaning any more, because I could find nothing from my lived past that shed light on where I was. All I had for certain was the feeling of a gentle but tangible joy, much like that indeterminate feeling of butterflies in the tummy when in love.

The big difference here, then and today, is that I am in love with everything, all of the time, and I have no single object of that love. This state of grace is almost beyond description. Its main quality is newness. Everywhere I go with my body and / or with my senses, my experiences are often like one recently hatched, who is endlessly surprised at the continual newness of it all.

The joy and the peace of it is unshakeably strong.

What once opened to me so long ago through the regular practice of Biodanza will remain open. Open now, it will never close.

It will be with me till my dying day.

“Journey” is my signature poem I wrote at that time.

꧁  E❤️v🧡e💛r💚yN💙o💜w  ꧂

JOURNEY

And my journey begins with my every breath

And the journey is my home

Love begins with every step of my journey

And love is in my home

Because love illuminates my journey

The journey is my dance

I love my journey

Because the dance never ends

So my journey is ever young

It is born, and born and born again

The Lunar Excursion Module in Chettle

The Lunar Excursion Module in Chettle Village, Dorset

Imagine!

I finished my solo guided backpack walk with https://foottrails.co.uk/ at the renowned Casteman Hotel in Chettle in 2013.

Chettle sits off the A354, and I saw it as the prettiest of charming English country villages. It came complete with duck pond, villager-run general store, and farm. Later on, I learned of the now famous annual Chettle Village Fête. I had a memorable time there one summer afternoon. SEE https://chettlefete.co.uk/

I set about taking snaps of one of the thatched cottages with its classic flower garden in full summer sunshine.

I greeted a retired gentleman of noble bearing, who walked out of the front door. We fell into conversation.

It turns out that, at that period, the whole of Chettle village, plus surrounding farms and lands, “belonged”, in a somewhat Feudal English way, to his wife.

Today some of these lands have been sold off, so their ownership is more fragmented. That man and I got on because we shared some experiences in common as teenagers in the 1960s in Geneva.

Then he told me this.

Earlier that year, he was in the little historic Knightsbridge pub, The Grenadier, near Hyde Park Corner, London. https://g.co/kgs/2AzF6Vz

He fell into conversation with an American tourist. This man said he works with NASA on the Moon landing craft. They manufactured two identical Moon Rovers, to be able to replicate and solve possible problems with the one on the Moon surface in real time.

He was in London to give a talk at the Science Museum, South Kensington, illustrated with the NASA Lunar Excursion Module entrusted to his care.

The man agreed to meet up as his guest at Chettle Village, which the American gent was curious to see as an example of typical Old England.

Some time passed, and he arrived together with a trailer, on top of which was the fully functional Lunar Excursion Module.

Picture these men with their broad smiles, taking turns driving along the single track Chettle Village main street at full throttle, which was around 20mph.

GAME ON! 👀 PLAY ON!

GAME ON! 👀 PLAY ON!

Look out for signs of the return of Springtime in your mind!

I ask myself,
“What are my own signs of Spring?”

In my case, on the threshold of seven and seventy, I see a different way to view my crumbling. At this period, when I need to pay more attention to my body signalling it needs my help, and sometimes on a daily basis, I do find my old body is asking for favours and easements. These stop signs show me as always that everything is in a state of change.

These days, I have a clear choice. More choices open up to me, when I am viewing my thoughts the way I see clouds float by reflected in a river. Fewer choices are within reach, when I forget to remember emotional clouds aren’t made of concrete!

Do I fret and become impatient?

Fretting and impatience are markers of futile attention to detail in the past or the future. The time I take out to indulge in anxious thoughts or to stamp my foot in impatience, is time wasted. Not only is time-wasting a serious misuse of what I have, I don’t have nearly as much of it left to fritter away!

Or do I welcome these claims on my time?

Do I treat them as new unlived lessons to learn, and new prompts to teach me and guide me towards taking more interested and compassionate care of myself? At random intervals, my body returns unexpected sensations of pain. It signals that it’s no longer instantly and uncomplainingly able to obey my brain’s motor impulses.

All this newness I can take as a hark back to the earlier, far more surprising, and deeply delicious newness which enveloped me like a shining cloud back in the Year of my Life 2013. That is what I prefer to choose to be reminded of.

Ageing is a whole new ball game!
Play on!

Where is the magic in connection?

🙏Disappearance is the magic in connection🙏

Is it not the best of things to be seen fully clothed yet as entirely naked as newborn?

The brightness thereof overtops and shadow-shunts the sallow sight of self every, every time.

One day, it was the first full day of my life. I did not know it was, because I didn’t know my life was mine to know. And I did not know the knower of my life, though I did sense the curious presence of a newness so new, I could not yet know it was so near to me as to be within me.

I was palely loitering.

Along came a pair of eyes to look to me.

The eyes, they see my blinking eyes.

And I deconstruct!

My face,

my muscles,

even my blood,

I am all

transparent.

I am unshadowed

to my very bones.

And then?

A symphony orchestra shakes

what’s left of who I never knew I was.

Inside the gaze of easy eyes

I am deciphered, molten, electrified

made suddenly extraordinarily rich.

Out of my head, lovebirds do fly

joyful

noisy

free

Loving to Live

The voice within has always spoken to myself and to the world from the seat of my emotions, from my feelings and impressions. I know I have always interpreted the world through my imaginative powers of association.

I’d often let this fine-tuned imagination galop away with the banalities of the day before I can get a practical handle on them.

This often led me to mis-associate external realities on purpose in order to amuse myself with impossible nonsense, or to escape deeper from their ordinary reality.

For a long time I’d deliberately share my own whisked-up version of things, knowing that people would be put off trying to understand me. This was how I would creep deeper into a social isolation where I felt safe. Those were the days people would hear me, tell me, “You’re mad”, turn round and walk away.

All these things became clear for me to see from the persistent hard Work of self-examination and revelation through Shamanic Healing between 2014 and 2017.

I owe an immense debt of gratitude to this compassionate soul, friend and Shamanic Healer, Tiffany Guild of Bournemouth.

I lived a rich inner life. It was both a blessing and a curse. It had originated from my isolation, starting from my earliest months of life, when trauma was the rule.

For decades, I stored in my mind humanist and “Zen” insights from inside my reinforced defended “cockpit”. I so needed to understand and be like others. But from behind my defensive walls, it was impossible. I had no visualisation of my own heavy fortifications, so I did not know how to act with the unselfconscious free flow I saw in the language and comportement of everybody else around me.

Then came 2013. The “Year of my Life”. The year I started regular Biodanza. As a result of giving away my heart, my heart appeared to me!

All the knowledge I’d stored away suddenly began to self-organise. It all began to make sense, but in a way that took a huge amount of energy to comprehend. After all, I had a library of facts and no methods of matching the facts against my new reality!

This marked my re-entry into Loving to Live. Living to love – so superficial – didn’t cut it for me any more.

It was a nose-dive into inner space. It was a scary Roller Coaster ride. It felt as if I would lose my mind, unless I could monitor this Brave New World by writing a daily Journal.

It is still a Roller Coaster ride, but it holds no fears. The intensity is undimmed. It presents with the same newness, whichever way I turn!

The more I engage with people, trees, flowers, insects in non-attached, non-judgemental ways, the less of a barrier exists between me and the “world”.

When I engage with my few closest friends, this dissolved barrier allows the love in their hearts to flood mine,

yours included

~ Love’s presence EveryNow