Life lived lovingly in multiple frames of reference is a bloody tough proposition, yes.
But only if I were to analyse what to do next on-the-fly, impromtu so to speak.
Before I drive a car, I create a white hot awareness of the devastating consequences of my actions if I drive without due preparation and care. This helps me with that “toughness”.
I used to cycle commute to central London 12 miles each way. I am alive now, because I chose to ride, metre by every metre, with extreme awareness, furing my journey of all the circumstances which could result in my own injury or death.
My frame of reference in relation to a personal interraction or to my passive witness of it, can become less of a fraught pinball game, if I take time to choose to populate my mind with hypothetical scenarios and use them to test my moral ground.
I have been chosing for many years to use words with positive areas of meaning, and I try to use non-dualistic descriptors. I cultivate the habit of experiencing the effect on others of my words before I use them by virtue of having already conversed in that way with myself.
Steady formation of the habits of empathy eventually broaden these frames of reference.
Is it not a waste of time to have stayed alive for so very many years by crossing the road with all due caution, if I cannot use my experience to walk side by side with others in safety, peace and love on their Journey?
~ Love is present EveryNow